We are never fully prepared for the death of someone we love, but sometimes that loss comes with absolutely no warning at all. One day, one minute, everything is normal. The next moment the phone call comes or the knock on the door. Your entire life has changed in an instant. When the loss is so sudden, we feel deprived of that last, “I love you,” or a chance to say goodbye. With all the other elements of grief, there may be nightmares or visions of the event. We feel guilty for having survived. We are angry that there was no warning. These feelings are all normal. You are responding normally to a horrifically abnormal situation. May God grant you peace.