For some of us who experienced loss several years ago, it may seem that we have grieved “too long.” Is there really such a thing? We grieve according to the depth of our loss. Some experts claim that it takes one month of grief work for each year of the relationship with the one we have lost. It seems to me as I approach the fourth year that I “should” be done by now. Under the formula of a month per year, I still have about three years to go. I was 44 when Mom and Pop died. 44 months for each of them would be 88 months or 7 years+. At four years, I am actually doing pretty well. Give yourself and your heart time.