They wouldn’t want you to be sad. Again, these are words that make a grieving person feel guilty for their grief. We are already grieving and now someone comes along to tell us we are doing that wrong. For a time, it is perfectly ok to be sad, to be devastated, to be distraught, to be lost. We do not need guilt added to grief. Your beloved would want you to feel and do whatever you need to do and feel. If there is a period of deep grief, that is perfectly ok. Do not allow anyone to minimize your love by denying you the privilege of grief. Peace.