Should we bring the children to the funeral?

That really depends on the maturity of the kids and their relationship to the one who has died. If the child is mature enough to realize that someone special is now missing from his/her life, take the child to the funeral. If the child expresses a sense of loss, take the child to the funeral. If the child has questions about death, it may be wise to take the child to the funeral. At that time, you can explain what is happening in age appropriate terms. A caution, when you attend the viewing, do not say, “Grammie is asleep.” The child then associates sleep with never waking up. This can cause a great deal of fear when the intent was to comfort. If the child had a close relationship with the one who has died, they may need to attend the funeral. Otherwise, later in life, he may wonder why he was excluded from the family mourning. If the child is mature enough to sense the grief around her, take her to the service. A child understands more than we may realize. Talk with them. See what they need or want to do.

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