What does that even mean? Normal is the life we shared with the one we loved. That is the normal we want back. We do not want some new normal that excludes them. We have choices, even in grief. We can shape this dreaded thing, this new normal. We can make a new normal filled with loss, shame, anger and depression. Our new normal can be all about our loss. Or, we can honor the life and love we have shared by choosing to live again. We can create a new normal filled with joyful memories, old and new, a normal filled with experiences that bring us joy, a normal filled with the loved ones who remain. We get to choose our new normal.