I know that this will seem harsh to many of us, but no one else’s opinion of how you should be grieving matters right now. I read somewhere that each one of us is the world’s foremost expert on our own grief, our own loss, and what we individually need for healing. How does that feel, to be the world’s foremost expert in three different albeit related fields? I want you to claim the authority that comes with this expertise. You have the authority to say, “no.” You have the authority to say, “I need…” You have the authority to say, “That was not helpful,” or “Those words hurt.” You have the right to grieve as you need to grieve. Do not let anyone, no matter how well intentioned, take that right, that authority away from you. Blessings on the journey.