As we grieve, so many thoughts go through our minds. So many emotions flood our hearts. It is easy to get overwhelmed by it all. Is there no place for this stuff to go? There is a vent available to us all. We can express our grief in creative ways. Journaling gets the thought out...

You are reading cooking advice from someone who does not cook. You have been warned! I know that, in grief, we often do not feel like preparing a meal just for ourselves. Maybe you used to cook for the whole family, and now your day to day cooking is for yourself alone. I have found...

Okay, so this is a do as I say not as I did post. My therapist has threatened to issue me speeding tickets for the grief work we do together. Five months after the accident that claimed Mom and Pop’s lives, I went to see a therapist for the first time. I had a two-month...

The admitting nurse for my mom’s mastectomy immediately asked whether Mom had contacted hospice yet. Mom asked why that would be necessary. The nurse answered that if Mom had breast cancer, it meant she was going to die. Mom agreed that one day she would die (we all do) but it would not be from...

My mom was a long-term breast cancer survivor. So, each October, breast cancer awareness month for me is about victory over cancer more than about loss. Mom found the cancer early, treated it aggressively and won! Please, get checked out. Know your risk. Treat appropriately. Your life is worth saving. You can win this fight.

Two weeks after Mom and Pop’s accident, the speaker at a clergy meeting talked disaster relief. He kept repeating that people in disaster situations needed to know that they would have to find a “new normal.” I did not believe then that a new normal was even possible for me. How could life ever be...

Do not judge those lost to suicide or their survivors. It is easy to sit in judgment saying, “I would never take my own life. Nothing could ever be that bad.” The reality is that each person has his or her own breaking point. We do not know what we would do if we truly...

I know these are heavy topics. September is Suicide Awareness and Prevention Month. We are doing what we can to raise awareness and care for one another. A painful loss or event may trigger suicidal thoughts and risk. Other factors include: 1) talking about self-harm, suicide or wanting to die. 2) Looking for means to...

Most of the rules for helping a grieving friend apply when walking with a suicidal friend. Show up. Remind them of your love for them. Be willing to be uncomfortable along with them without running away. Ask if they are suicidal. If they say yes, try to get them to call for help and offer...

September is Suicide Prevention Month. In September, in this space, we will be talking about knowing the warning signs and helping a suicidal friend. I’ll remind us not to judge the one who died by suicide or the survivor of such a loss. Please, be kind to yourself and anyone who might wrestle with suicidal...