My therapist likens God’s grace to ice cream. First, most of us really like ice cream. Second, even when we are full after supper, we can make room for ice cream. Juanita says ice cream fills in the gaps and covers everything over in yummy. I like that image of grace- that there is...

            On my road trip, I got into some of the snaky, curvy Missouri roads after sunset. It was dark. The road was unfamiliar. Some sections were poorly marked. It was necessary to slow down in order to arrive safely at my motel. Not to mention the fact that I was very tired, having spent...

            Recently, I took a long road trip. Along the road, in unexpected places, there were beautiful things. Sometimes, there was a small pond reflecting the sunset in a secluded place. It was simply there to be beautiful for those who noticed. There were trees which had been twisted and gnarled by wind, fire, and...

I know I wrote a post earlier arguing that we should not compare griefs. And I believe that there is no hierarchy of one loss is worse than another. Your worst loss is your worst loss, and mine is mine. There is no comparison. All that said, just over a month ago my cousin called...

It is true that life as we once knew it is over. A piece of our heart has gone. So, what now? My therapist speaks of re-investing in life. She means finding a way to engage in the activities that interest you now. Before the accident, I had no reason to speak or write about...

            For some of us who experienced loss several years ago, it may seem that we have grieved “too long.” Is there really such a thing? We grieve according to the depth of our loss. Some experts claim that it takes one month of grief work for each year of the relationship with the one...

Don’t be surprised when your next loss brings the first back to your mind and heart with a vengeance. Those losses we thought we had handled and survived come back around fresh when we lose another of our precious people. It is called cumulative grief as each loss compounds on those before it. Each loss...

            We have just opened the new calendar. It is 2019. A new year. New beginnings. We make resolutions on how we want to live. Isn’t that just like grief? When my parents died, I became the pastor of the church Mom had served for 17 years. On the attendance and offering page of the...

            It is sort of funny. Back in July, I wrote blog posts from August First through January Second. As I got ready to send the collection of posts in for publication, I noticed one was not done. It was this one on unfinished business. Often whether our loss is expected or sudden, we get...

            When is it okay to begin to grieve? As soon as we become aware of a loss. For some of us the death has already occurred before we learn of it. We begin to grieve as soon as we know our precious one is gone. But, what about those times when our precious one...